Today is a special day for me + my guy. Five years ago we realized that what we had as best friends was a forever thing. Our relationship didn't start for almost three years later, and back then we sure as shit didn't know where we would be today.
So in honor of today I'm going to tell my favorite love story ever.
I don't know that I ever thought we would end up together, but deep down I knew there was something there that was more than friendly. I think when it came down to it we were so blinded by what we already had that we couldn't possibly see what was right in front of us the whole time. We met when we were 18. I had just started seeing my then-boyfriend, and Alec had been in a relationship with a girl since high school. We had one thing in common, and that was that we shared a best friend. He grew up with his best friend Jake in San Luis Obispo, CA, and then Jake came to Arizona State University, where we met and became thick as thieves. Early 2010, Jake left ASU and moved back to SLO. But before he did that, he started dating my sister, my closest friend in all my world, Sami. So she decided to move to SLO with Jake. Around the same time, I decided to pack up and move to Los Angeles. But once I got to LA, I was horribly lonely. Moving to a city on my own where the only people I knew were my aunt and my grandparents was one of the toughest things I've ever done (but that's a whole other story.) So anyway, I started making weekend trips to SLO. It's only about a 3.5 - 4 hour drive, which is easy for me, I love to drive.
It became extremely obvious, once I started spending time there, that my sister and Jake were the kind of couple who were inseparable. So whenever I would go up there, I found myself spending time with one person in particular. I'll give you one guess who that was. ;)
Alec and I quickly found out that we got along extremely well, and before we knew it, it was obvious to anyone that we were becoming best friends. Eventually, Jake and Sami broke up, she moved home to Arizona, and Jake moved to LA to work in the film industry. When he first moved to LA he needed a place to stay for a couple weeks, so he came and stayed with me in my apartment. And he never left. We ended up being roommates for almost 4 years. This led to Alec and I growing closer, because the three of us were often together. Alec moved to San Diego, and spent many weekends in LA hanging out with us.
And then one day everything changed. I would be lying if I said that I didn't believe that something was there, all along. We always had a sort of flirty relationship and had on more than one occasion been asked if we were a couple...I actually had a girlfriend who thought we were dating for the first couple of weeks that she knew us. Then, seemingly all of a sudden, we were both single for the first time since knowing each other, and things began to, well, blossom. He was driving to LA from San Diego every weekend, and our eyes were finally able to see what was in front of us the whole time. We started dating in March, and when my lease ended in June, I packed my bags and moved to SD, not knowing I was beginning my life's greatest adventure.
I love to look back on everything that has happened, and think about how things could have been different. Would we have ended up having Roman if we had gotten together sooner? Maybe not, who knows? I think that everything has a reason for when, why, and how things happen. But I think my fairytale happened just how it was supposed to. I never would have imagined that I would be perfectly happy sharing a bathroom in a tiny apartment with my boyfriend, or going through hell trying to find a big enough house for us and our dogs AND a baby on the way. And I sure as shit wouldn't have believed you if you told me I would be sharing a home, a family, and not to mention a closet, with this cute guy I always thought was just my best friend. (Seriously though, the closet thing was rough. Although I like being able to pick clothes from his side of the closet, menswear is totally in right now. In this photo session I'm actually wearing his Coach sweatshirt, and he's wearing MY Sound City jacket, which is my prized possession because it was actually given to me by Dave Grohl himself. *drool)
Anyway. Today is a happy day for me, so I felt like telling our story. I hope it didn't bore you. It's a dangerous game, dating your best friend. There's always that fear in the back of your mind that if things don't work out you lose someone you never wanted out of your life. But things will happen the way they are supposed to, whether you like it or not. I say go for it, who knows, you could end up living happily ever after.
(You can get our stroller/car seat combo here)